This post is for anyone who want a fresh start this year.
For those who hate themselves, go to those who truly love you. Ask what they love about you. Write them down and keep it for when you get sad and start to loathe yourself. More importantly, ask yourself what you love about yourself and write that down. And if you’re truly stuck in a self-loathing rut, try a counsellor. Sometimes, an outsider’s perspective can help you see yourself.
For those who want to hurt themselves, please don’t do it. It doesn’t help you. Once the scar is there, it is there for a long time. If you want to make a mark on yourself, draw on yourself with a marker or pen. At least that is temporary.
For those who have love, you are fortunate because love is the greatest gifts that life can give you. It is also the greatest gift to give somebody. Cherish it with your whole heart and cherish that person too. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.
For those who are single, it is fine to be that way. Not being in a relationship doesn’t make you less of a person nor is it more important than your friends, or your career, or your other interests. Also, go out with someone if you like them, not just for the sake of it. Also, take your time with the person and get to know them.
For those who seek approval from others, don’t. Because if you make a mistake and those people point out that mistake to you, you feel terrible. The ancient Greek philosopher Socrates once mentioned that if you knew the consequences to all your actions, you are less likely to do it. My suggestion is the best way to make less mistakes is to try to be as informed as possible because you’ll feel better in the long run. And besides, the best kind of praise is the kind you don’t expect.
For those who want to change themselves, ask yourself why. Because the most important reason to change is for yourself. If you want to lose weight, do it because you feel like losing weight, not because some person called you a “whale” or you want to attract someone. If you want to change everything about yourself, don’t. Not only is it unrealistic, but it will make you unhappy. Only change a few things. For example, if you’re late a lot, just tackle that issue. If you even tackle one issue, it makes a huge difference.
For those who want to be happy, realise that it’s okay to be sad sometimes. You haven’t failed. Every bit of happiness, even in the bleakest of times, is an achievement. Like love, cherish every moment of happiness.
For those who want to achieve their dreams, I can tell you that is that you can do it! With a lot of hard work, planning, dedication, some sacrifices and self belief, you can achieve anything! Think about all the great people out there, they all started from the bottom. I can assure you that, if I can achieve my dreams, so can you!
Here’s to a better 2014!